Comments on: Update: Wisconsin Desi Abortion Drug Story http://uberdesi.com/blog/2007/12/15/update-wisconsin-desi-abortion-drug-story/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss Keeping it real, desi ishtyle Mon, 07 May 2012 15:36:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Über Desi | More updates on the Wisconsin Desi Abortion Drug Story http://uberdesi.com/blog/2007/12/15/update-wisconsin-desi-abortion-drug-story/comment-page-1/#comment-2361 Über Desi | More updates on the Wisconsin Desi Abortion Drug Story Wed, 09 Jan 2008 17:42:38 +0000 http://uberdesi.com/blog/2007/12/15/update-wisconsin-desi-abortion-drug-story/#comment-2361 [...] posts on this story Manish Patel arrested The cultural implications of the abortion drug story Other posts in Maccaca CrimewatchMacacas in Mumbai molest California based women - January 4th, [...] [...] posts on this story Manish Patel arrested The cultural implications of the abortion drug story Other posts in Maccaca CrimewatchMacacas in Mumbai molest California based women – January 4th, [...]

]]> By: Sidhu http://uberdesi.com/blog/2007/12/15/update-wisconsin-desi-abortion-drug-story/comment-page-1/#comment-2362 Sidhu Thu, 20 Dec 2007 21:12:33 +0000 http://uberdesi.com/blog/2007/12/15/update-wisconsin-desi-abortion-drug-story/#comment-2362 <blockquote>I do not think any of the commentators was attempting to justify the abuse in anyway</blockquote> Pity, it has to be explained. But hey look, I now know what borderline trolling is... :)

I do not think any of the commentators was attempting to justify the abuse in anyway

Pity, it has to be explained. But hey look, I now know what borderline trolling is… :)

]]> By: Runa http://uberdesi.com/blog/2007/12/15/update-wisconsin-desi-abortion-drug-story/comment-page-1/#comment-2363 Runa Thu, 20 Dec 2007 05:09:12 +0000 http://uberdesi.com/blog/2007/12/15/update-wisconsin-desi-abortion-drug-story/#comment-2363 <blockquote>Like it or not cultural mores have a huge impact on how survivors react in situations</blockquote> Bina, Granted that culture can affect ones behavior - but to blame Darshana's Indian culture for her staying on in an abusive relationship is oversimplyfying the situation. Abused women - all over the world-including the USA - stay in such relationships due to a number of reasons,-financial, emotional and yes sometimes, social. I do not think any of the commentators was attempting to justify the abuse in anyway

Like it or not cultural mores have a huge impact on how survivors react in situations

Bina,
Granted that culture can affect ones behavior – but to blame Darshana’s Indian culture for her staying on in an abusive relationship is oversimplyfying the situation. Abused women – all over the world-including the USA – stay in such relationships due to a number of reasons,-financial, emotional and yes sometimes, social.

I do not think any of the commentators was attempting to justify the abuse in anyway

]]> By: bina http://uberdesi.com/blog/2007/12/15/update-wisconsin-desi-abortion-drug-story/comment-page-1/#comment-2367 bina Thu, 20 Dec 2007 04:43:48 +0000 http://uberdesi.com/blog/2007/12/15/update-wisconsin-desi-abortion-drug-story/#comment-2367 She was not strong enough & was emotionally weak, so it's OK that she was abused? Are the only reasons for a desi relationship marriage & financial stability? What happened to companionship? Like it or not cultural mores have a huge impact on how survivors react in situations. There's sufficient documentation out there that discusses this. If you have talked or worked with people in abusive relationships you wouldn't be so quick to rush to judgement. She was not strong enough & was emotionally weak, so it’s OK that she was abused?
Are the only reasons for a desi relationship marriage & financial stability? What happened to companionship?

Like it or not cultural mores have a huge impact on how survivors react in situations. There’s sufficient documentation out there that discusses this.
If you have talked or worked with people in abusive relationships you wouldn’t be so quick to rush to judgement.

]]> By: Karthik http://uberdesi.com/blog/2007/12/15/update-wisconsin-desi-abortion-drug-story/comment-page-1/#comment-2368 Karthik Sun, 16 Dec 2007 21:55:11 +0000 http://uberdesi.com/blog/2007/12/15/update-wisconsin-desi-abortion-drug-story/#comment-2368 While I agree with Radhika that we need to question Manishs actions, when I first read this story, it was a major twist according to me. Although they did find the abortion pill in the drink he made, Darshana did not drink it, nor had she eaten any food he had prepared since she got pregnant. Manish has said that he did give her the pill once, for which he needs to spend time behind bars, but the rest of the story does not add up. While I am all for supporting women, blaming the Desi culture does not bode well with me. Like Sidhu pointed out, she was just not strong enough. She could have been from mars and it would not have made a difference. While I agree with Radhika that we need to question Manishs actions, when I first read this story, it was a major twist according to me.

Although they did find the abortion pill in the drink he made, Darshana did not drink it, nor had she eaten any food he had prepared since she got pregnant.

Manish has said that he did give her the pill once, for which he needs to spend time behind bars, but the rest of the story does not add up.

While I am all for supporting women, blaming the Desi culture does not bode well with me. Like Sidhu pointed out, she was just not strong enough. She could have been from mars and it would not have made a difference.

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