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Anu Solanki’s day out (Updated: Pics and background story)

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Update:

Finally, we’re starting to get more details on the background to the Anu Solanki story. [link]

Anu Solanki came to the United States to meet him, and Dignesh Solanki, who was living in Chicago, went to court her in Virginia, where she was staying with family members.

Her family initially did not approve of the match. But he eventually won over Anu’s mother, and he and Anu wed in New Jersey in May.

Won over her mother!! How touching!! Über Desi Rule #1 for desi romeos: winning over a girl’s family does not equate to winning over the girl. Dude, that is, like, so 90s.

Other interesting tidbits on how they “met”.

Dignesh Solanki, 27, is a slender, bespectacled grocery clerk from Gujarat, a state in northwest India. About three years ago, his future wife walked into his family’s clothing store in Gujarat. His mother liked her and showed her a photo of her son.
“My mom said, ‘I have a son, and he is looking to marry,’” Solanki said.

It cannot get any desier than this. Love at first sight for the prospective MIL. Über Desi Rule #2 for desi romeos: Letting mummy pick your future wife, don’t be surprised if future wife turns out to a psycho ax-murderer. Fortunately, for Dignesh, his wife was not an ex-murderer. She just turned out to be an immature adult, who jumped ship without warning.

Über Desi Rule #3 for desi romeos: When your wife gets romantic text messages 2 days after marriage and suddenly disappears, most likely she ran away with the guy who texted her.

Solanki remembers the “romantic” text messages he noticed on her cell phone just two days after they were married.
“I gave her a chance because she promised me she would be 100 percent faithful,” Solanki said of his wife, Anu Solanki. “I completely trusted her. I would never have run away with another girl. I would have tried to work it out.”

Still, the fact that you gave her a second chance and were concerned about her safety, makes you a nice guy, naive but still a good guy.

Über Desi Rule #4 for desi romeos: It is perfectly acceptable to get mad at the guy, who assisted your wife in eloping, and even wanting to punch him* in the face, instead of letting god doing the punching.

Solanki expressed anger at Jani, the University of Southern California grad who “messed my life up.”
“I’m not the one who’s going to punish that guy,” Solanki said. “God will punish the guy. That’s what I believe.”
“This was all planned,” Solanki added.

Original Post:

Count Anu Solanki, the missing desi woman from the Chicago area, among the lost and found category (tip Highheel Confidential via email). [link]

Turns out Anu wanted to get out of her marriage, so she met up with a friend and absconded, completely disregarding the consequences of her actions.

Anu Solanki wanted out of her marriage, so the 24-year-old met a male friend at a forest preserve on Christmas Eve, jumped into his car and fled for what she hoped would be a new life in Southern California.

Anu Solanki, who spent Saturday night at a Chicago-area hotel, claimed that she and the 23-year-old man who drove her to California, Karan C. Jani, were close friends and not romantically involved, Cunningham said. They had known each other about a year.

Later, when she found out her disappearance made national headlines, the man who helped her escape encouraged her to contact her relatives.

It was Jani who first saw a report about the search for Solanki on a Web site Thursday. He then encouraged her to contact her family.

Only days later, she told investigators, did she learn that her disappearance had made headlines and prompted a costly search by authorities, who had feared that Solanki might have drowned in a river.

“She expressed regret and embarrassment,” Cook County sheriff’s spokesman Bill Cunningham said Saturday, a day after Solanki flew back to Chicago from Los Angeles and spoke to investigators for several hours. “She claims she in no way meant to deceive people into thinking she fell into the Des Plaines River.”

So the question become was Anu so naive just take off thinking her family and in-laws would not be concerned enough to launch a massive search operation or did she just not care?

Authorities spent about $250,000 on their search, which included divers and a helicopter. Her family also handed out flyers with Solanki’s picture.

“Obviously we’re upset that so many individuals have had to work on this for so many days and that so many resources were spent on it,” Cunningham said. “But she maintained she had no idea it would create the kind of reaction it did.”

This is the part that gets me.

Cunningham said investigators inquired about whether their marriage was arranged, but the answer was not clear.

What does her marriage being arranged or not have anything to do with this case? Is it an automatic assumption that women in arranged marriages are abused or killed by their husbands/in-laws? Women over this nation are abused and/or harmed daily and being in an arranged marriage or otherwise, has nothing to do with it. And the automatic assumption that arranged marriages are forced, hate to break it to the Amrikan public and media, is untrue. Sure, there are couples that are forced into an arranged marriage but there also a large number of people, consenting adults no less, who get into an arranged marriage willingly.

Besides arranged marriage or not, if she wanted out of it, there are numerous ways out - it’s not like America is lacking in divorce lawyers. Instead of facing the situation, Anu tried to take a shortcut and ended up making a national spectacle of herself and everyone else who cared for her.

* wanting to punch someone does not equate to actually punching someone. Über Desi does not in manner condone irrational responses and/or physical violence, but given the circumstances, if Dignesh expressed a desire to indulge in above actions, we find it’s hard to criticize him for it.

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